9 Steps To Meeting Mentors That Just Might Change Your Life.

This time last year I worked in a parking garage.

For two years prior to that I worked in a different parking garage.

Riveting stuff.

These days though, I've got a pretty cool set up.  I do marketing for a local orchestra in town, I'm a Teaching Artist (TA) for Tune Up Philly, a sub TA for the Philadelphia Orchestra, and get to do lots of really awesome freelance stuff around town.  It's all very flexible and I'm very much in control of my own schedule.

Just about every single one of these new opportunities has come along with the help of a mentor.

Now, I by no means have an extravagant life, but I definitely am in much better shape financially, professionally, and emotionally than I was a year ago.  It's actually a really simple process that any student or someone looking to transition can follow to get results for themselves.  

Here are a few steps:

1.  Reach out before you need help.  

If you know you want a big life change to take place in the future, plan ahead.  Whether you're wanting to start a new job, graduating college, or moving to a new city, be aware that very rarely do things just work out immediately for anyone.  The people who succeed are the ones that have had a plan in place and followed it.  

In terms of mentors, this means planting the seeds of a potential new relationship long before you hope to get anything from them.  No one is going to just take some random-ass person under their wing without knowing a little something about them and how they work.

2.  Appeal to their own interests.

People won't do just anyone a favor.  When you're approaching someone, you should always try to interest them by having something to offer them.

Hint:  A simple way to stay on people's radar is to send them interesting articles/book recommendations that you think they might be interested in.  It's free to you and it's a good way to "ping" people without seeming like a bother.

3.  Create a ladder to climb higher.  

Everyone wants the brilliant thinkers of their industry to mentor them, but if you just start tweeting at them out of nowhere, you'll get nowhere fast.

Instead, start lower on the totem pole with mentors and work your way up from there.  People just a few years older than you can show you the ropes and might be able to help you break in to the next level of connections.  Find a way that you can add value to them and they'll probably be happy to share their wisdom they've learned (they also remember what's it's like!).  Before you know it you'll be introduced to many more people.

4.  Be ready to put in the time.  

Most people are lazy and don't want to put in the time to learn.  If you want to get the most out of these connections and really dig in to everything they've got to offer, spend as much time with and around them as possible.  I used to get up to go to assemblies/board meetings/staff meetings/anything to get to know the environment.  

If people see that you're serious about learning and willing to put in the time, they'll know that you're someone that can be depended on to work hard.  Trust is absolutely necessary.

5.  Return the favors by making them look good.

If you've done it right, you'll eventually find yourself caught up in world that you would've never thought accessible.  Mentors will open doors for you that you could never gain access to alone.  Whether it's access to their networks, a job, or a great reference, they'll have done you a lot of favors over time.

With this in mind, you should know that the best way to repay your mentors is to do a killer job and make sure you show them they're not wasting their time and energy on you.  Make them happy they invested in you and you'll continue reaping the benefits of a good relationship for a long time.

Fun fact:  The parking garage I used to work at was for a private club in town.  Less than 6 months after leaving that job, I'm now attending events there instead of working in the garage.  I'm not bragging, but I wanted to provide an example of how effective this stuff can be.

6.  Don't worry about the money.  

Find ways to make ends meet, but there are infinitely more important things to be gained with a good mentor.

7.  Be strategic with who you're reaching out to.  

Do some research in your space and learn who would be a good fit for you.  It'd be a major bummer to invest time in something that didn't yield the results you want.

8.  Manage your expectations of people.  

If you find yourself in the position of getting a really high profile person taking interest in you, understand that they're extremely busy and that you'll have to use what time you get with them wisely.

9.  Don't ask them to be your mentor. 

Would you go up to a hot girl/guy at a bar and ask them to be your boy/girlfriend?

Maybe you would...I hope not though.

You'd look like a total doof and get shut down immediately.  Let the relationship develop naturally without slapping a presumptuous label on something.

There are plenty of other things to be explored in this topic, but I think this is enough for now.  I wrote this post because it's something that has REALLY made a huge difference in my life and I hope it will help others do the same.  

If you've got any questions or thoughts post them in the comments below.

What we can all learn from 50 Cent, Jane Goodall, and best selling authors.

What do 50 Cent, Jane Goodall, and best selling authors like Ryan Holiday, Remit Sethi ,and Tim Ferriss all have in common?


Probably a lot more than we would think, but what I'm referring to is one of the things that sent all of them over the top in the careers and could do the same for us.  The thing I'm specifically referring to is their unique ability of getting to know their environments from the inside out to effectively achieve their goals, whether that's selling music, studying apes, or selling millions of books.

So what does that even mean?

What makes each of these totally different individuals wildly successful is that each of them has an uncanny understanding of the audience they're targeting.  We live in a culture that is always looking for the easy way of doing everything and because of this, most of us never actively develop the skills (or just are too lazy to) necessary to invest time, energy and other resources in to doing a totally amazing job in getting to know something.

Goodall lived in the jungle, 50 Cent created a website specifically to interact with his fans directly, and all the authors I mentioned are masters of understanding the desires of their audiences.  Every time you go make a pitch to your boss, write up a proposal for work, or even try just drum up some freelance work for yourself, if you take the time to really get to know your audience, you'll have infinitely better results.

Even if it means volunteering your time and resources, the return on truly knowing what they want and desire is worth more than you'd think.  Just think if you knew exactly what your potential client, your boss, or even your family and friends were thinking before even making your pitch for whatever it is.  Understand what motivates, intrigues, and moves people is infinitely applicable in everyday life.

I think we've all got a list of people a mile long we could communicate with better or things we could more thoroughly understand.

What's yours?

P.S.--- In case anyone is wondering where I got the title from, I have been reading The 50th Law by Robert Green and 50 Cent.  It's an excellent read on living life fearlessly.

Get more gigs in less time.

How many times have you been invited to like a page for your friend just to find that the page serves absolutely no purpose?

I'm not hating on FB pages.  I think they can be really awesome and do wonders for communicating to your audience (if you have one).  But for the most part, they're absolutely useless when it comes to generating work.

Things like Facebook, Twitter, websites, and other things like that have a lot of value, but they're not something that your joe-schmo student looking to freelance should be spending time on.  I have a FB page for my quintet and it serves absolutely no purpose other than acting as a place for my friends and family to see what's going on with the group.  

That's it.

I have never gotten a gig through that page (and probably never will), Twitter or even from the website.  

While they all have a purpose, the bulk of your time should be spent directly interacting with potential clients and other people that could potentially be paying you.

Think about what kind of work you're currently getting and then ask yourself these kinds questions:

-Where did those gigs come from?

-Could I be expanding my opportunities in this area?

-Are there other areas I could be aiming for?

For my quintet, we do a lot of work with churches.  So....I emailed every church I could find an email for about my group.  Then I realized that not only do these churches hire for their services, I should be doing concerts there too.  Once I started digging deeper and expanding on work I was already doing, it opened up a ton of new opportunities.  With a little time and a lot of emails, I started developing relationships with hundreds or people around the area that pretty regularly reach out to me inquiring about our services.

Same goes for my personal freelancing.  The majority of my work is schools.  So, I reached out to every conductor with a brief intro and a resume.  Nothing pushy, just planting a seed with them.  I was immediately hired to play.  Simple.

Do they always pan out?  No way.  But both of these things have directly led to making money playing horn.

It's all just something to keep in mind.  When starting off, it's best to get some quick wins to give that motivation to keep pushing.  Designing websites and spamming your FB friends probably won't lead to opportunities immediately, so try focusing your efforts on the things that will get the results you really want.

The best concert I have ever been to.

By the time I even get half way finished with this post it will be out of date, but I'm going to write it anyways.


I witnessed something incredible tonight.  The Philadelphia Orchestra was supposed to be performing in Carnegie Hall tonight.  Due to a stagehand strike, the show was cancelled and they decided to put together a last minute free concert to the public.  In less than 12hrs of marketing via the internet they PACKED Verizon Hall.

For those of you who don't know, Verizon Hall is huge.  I mean really huge.

There was some serious spreading of the word (marketing!) going on today.  Unfortunately the hash tag (#philorchpopup) is a little clunky so it's not even close to being a fair representation of how much buzz was going on today about this concert.  I would venture to say (quite confidently) that this was hands down the most buzz about a concert they've ever had.  This orchestra is over a hundred years old.  That's wild.

What caused it?

I can't say for sure, but I have a hunch it had a lot to do with the fact that the orchestra was providing tremendous value to their community tonight.  They could've just gone home after hearing the concert was off in NYC, but they didn't.  Instead they slapped together a concert filled with favorites that everyone would enjoy.  Their world class conductor, Yannick Nezet-Seguin was talking to the audience the entire performance.  They had a little girl conduct William Tell.  The audience had out their cellphones and were encouraged to film and share the concert with the world!  They did all of this in casual clothes.

Everyone was having a blast and it shows online.  There are hundreds of posts going on around Twitter and Facebook.  Musicians were even filming from the stage.  Some of the posts I've seen have hundreds of shares, likes, and retweets.  If the hash tag were a little better I think we could track it even closer!

Like most businesses, organizations tend to try and buy the attention of their audiences.  Tonight happened all because it was exciting, a phenomenal product, and it was all for the audience.  They probably didn't spend anymore than a little staff time today getting the word out.

The time has come for organizations to rethink how they connect and engage with their audiences and I hope tonight starts a dialogue in every arts marketing depart across the country about what they can be doing to better serve their communities.

Also, just an FYI, Carol Jantsch's video from the stage has gained like 50 Likes and the shares have over doubled since I wrote this.  Just think about how many people The Philadelphia Orchestra reached tonight.  It really is amazing.

4 Steps to Jump Start Your Freelancing Career.

Well, folks.  It's that time of year again.

Many of you might be starting a new year of school or even moving to a new city.  Whatever you're doing this Fall and beyond, I bet you've got high hopes for what you're going to achieve in this upcoming year.  I know I do!

I've been doing a lot of thinking lately about what has proved effective in helping me get my freelancing career moving and I decided to write a little bit about it.  As most of you know, we musicians (and many other careers) depend a lot on freelance work for extra income.  So I decided to give my spiel on what has worked for me thus far.  I'm a big believer that by defining and measuring what works, you can not only achieve success, but replicate it by applying those principles over and over again.  The following have worked wonders for me (and many of my most successful friends) and I hope that you'll give them a try a let me know how they work for you.

1.  Acknowledge that it takes effort.----I know a ton of people that sit around moaning and groaning about how they never get gigs.  Some people seem to think that it will just magically happen someday.  Wrong!

This may seem super obvious, but it is amazing how many people will never take the time to put in the work it requires to really get yourself out there.  It takes some time and energy, but it's all a matter of making it a priority.  We've all got the same amount of time, it's just a matter of how we decide to use it.

2.  Reach out to others for guidance.----The only way to ever get hired for anything is for people to know that you exist.  You can spend hours everyday in a practice room perfecting some random 8 bars of some random symphony, but if nobody knows you're around, you'll never get called for anything.  Anywhere you go, there is someone who was in your same position at some point.  Reaching out those people for advice can go a long way.  Nobody starts out on the the top of the freelance scene, but everyone has experiences they can share that will shed some light on what might help you along.

I am still very close with some of the people that took time to sit and talk with me several years ago.  One of them has passed along countless gigs to me, I currently work for two of them, and another one hooked me up with my current teaching position.  Once you've started making these connections, you'll be in the perfect position to put the next step in to action.

3.  Create opportunities to hire other people.----Being in a position to hire other people is a very powerful networking tool.  Find the people that you want to work with that can and will return the favor.  Before you know it you'll have a nice little circle of people that are totally willing to help each other out as much as possible.  A huge chunk of my freelance work comes from my friends that referred me to a contractor or conductor.  The more opportunities you have to help others, the more opportunities you'll be presented with.

From my own experience, starting your own group is the most effective way to kick start this process.  If you're constantly generating opportunities to hire others on your own, that means that you always have the ability to expand your network.  This can take a lot of effort on your end, but again it's all about prioritizing what's actually important enough to you that you'll make the investment to get started.

4.  Be a good colleague.----All of these steps are useless if nobody wants to work with you.  Make sure you've got your shit together when you venture out in to the world of freelancing.  No one wants to work with someone that has a reputation of being difficult to work with, unprepared, or irresponsible.  In my opinion, the best people to work with are the ones I'm friends with.  Most people would rather hire someone that is totally awesome to work with over someone that is an amazing player, but a pain to deal with.  Again, this may seem like common sense, but I can think of a lot of people that I will never call just because I don't enjoy working with them.  It's nothing personal, but we all want to spend time around people that we enjoy being around.  I think we can all agree on that.

In closing, I think it's worth saying that the freelancing biz is very much a relationship business.  People want to work with people that they enjoy being around and that add value to their lives professionally and personally.  Like anything worth doing, developing a freelance career is a lot of work, but extremely rewarding.  I hope that all of you that have been looking to break in to your local freelance scene will take this formula and really give it a whirl.  From talking with a lot of my friends that are infinitely more successful than I am, I've found that these steps are universally used in everyone's career.

Take some time and really think about if you're where you'd like to be in the freelancing part of your career.  What could you be doing better and what can you change to improve?

Take a moment to leave me a message or make a comment.  I'd love to hear your thoughts.

3 Reasons Why Everyone Should Learn to Sell (and what they mean to you).

I don't know about you, but I often find myself getting really frustrated when I know I have ideas that can  ake a change for the better for something/someone, and I just can't seem to successfully project my thoughts and ideas in way that makes anyone care.  This seems to happen to me in all aspect of my life from my social relationships, professional settings, and in my own projects that I'm working on.  I recently ran across a book that has totally changed my entire perspective and approach to moving others.

In Dan Pink's book, To Sell is Human, he argues that the ability to sell is universally necessary.  The idea that sales is sleazy and only belongs on the used Subaru lot is totally ridiculous when you really think about it.  According to Pink, selling is about more than getting someone to buy something, but more importantly it's about moving others.  This point about moving others is where I really got hooked and my mind starting running wild with ideas.  The whole time, I was thinking of ways that I could others excited about this concept and how potentially useful it is to anyone and everyone.

Here's some of the three big points I took away from the book:  

1.  Learning to sell, means learning to articulate the value of what you have to offer in a compelling way.

When you try to sell someone on an idea of yours, it's absolutely critical that you can clearly articulate the value of what your proposing and why they should care.  This may sound easy, but when you sit down and really try to define why exactly someone should care about your idea, it gets tough.  It's really telling when you speak with someone and ask them to explain why anyone should care about their idea and they can't tell you.  Try it sometime.  You'll be amazed at how often people draw a blank.  I mean, seriously if you don't believe me just look at most orchestra's mission statements.

2.  Learning to sell, means learning to effectively communicate.

Whether you're trying to sell someone over the phone, through a Facebook page, or through any other form of communication.  Selling is all about being to communicate your ideas to anyone through a variety of outlets.  I don't know anyone who couldn't stand to improve some aspect of their communication skills with others.  Getting out there and trying to articulate the value of your ideas in any medium is a great way to learn communication.  You'll learn tons about how to adapt your communication to make it effective with anyone. 

Who couldn't benefit from that?

3.  Learning to sell, means learning to help your ideas spread and influence others.

This is the big one.  We all have ideas that we want to spread and learning to sell will help anyone be more effective in their quest to make some kind of difference.  Whether you want to help your kid become more motivated to fill out their college applications, start a business, or win anyone to your way of thinking, investigating sales will help you accomplish that.  

Being able to sell doesn't just mean getting people to buy things with money, it means getting people to part with resources in exchange for something that will add value to their life.  These resources could be anything from time, attention, money, or virtually anything else.  Coordinating these various resources to help you accomplish your goals is what selling your ideas is all about.

Think about it.  Everyone has a friend or family member they'd like to influence in some way or maybe some big idea they'd like to implement at their job.  It's all a matter of coordinating the resources necessary to make it happen.  Whether you're a freelance horn player (like myself), a parent, teacher, or anyone looking have some kind of influence (which is everyone), the skills involved in sales will make you more effective.  

If you're interested in doing some research, I would highly recommend Dan Pink's book To Sell is Human.  It's probably the most "un-sales-y" book on sales you could possible find.  It's an extremely engaging read that is filled the brim with fascinating psychology to learn about.

If you're interested in what the book is about, but don't want to read the book yet, take a look at this interview with Dan Pink talking about the idea in the book.

The image up top is by artist Hugh Macleod, a favorite cartoonist/author/marketer of mine that totally gets it.

-Seth

Doing stuff for free.

Well, it's been a few weeks since I've written, but it has certainly been very eventful month!  This past weekend my quintet had the great opportunity to perform in Verizon Hall at the Kimmel Center here in Philly.  We got to play for about half an hour on stage with (I think) the largest concert hall organ in the country.  Yes, it was totally bad ass, and no, we did not get paid.

Doing gigs for free is something that I've noticed can be a tender subject for a lot musicians (especially young musicians).  Personally, I have no beefs with doing things for free and I think people need to be a little more open to things before making judgments because it's "free".  Obviously you don't want to waste your time on a crappy gig that doesn't have anything to offer you, but I can think of a lot of examples in my own short freelancing career where a volunteered gig has led me to paying work.

Here are a few factors I take in to consideration when asked to volunteer my services:

• Who is contracting?  
• People understand that doing free gigs isn't always ideal and I think most people will look at it as a favor.  Having people owe you a "favor" is a good thing if it could lead to paid work in the future.
• Who will I meet there?
• Whether it's the conductor, other musicians, or someone totally different, it never hurts to get out and meet people.  Even if it's free, show up prepared and play well.  You'd hate to sit next to someone that could help you out and make a bad impression because you're playing poorly. 
• Do I have anything else going on?
• I have a confession to make that most other freelancers can relate to.  If I only played when I was getting paid to do so, I wouldn't be playing very much.  Sound familiar?  If it doesn't cost me more than a few bucks to travel and I'm not missing anything important, I'll always consider doing things.

I know some people (a lot more than you would think) that only want to show up and play when they're getting paid.  That's fine and dandy, but I think people are a little delusional about starting out careers in music.  I'll say it again, if I only played when I was getting paid, I would not playing much at all.  That would be totally lame.

Obviously every situation is unique, but I really think people should open up a little more to the idea of volunteering their talents.  For example, if you're a wanting to start a group that does wedding ceremonies, you'll find that it is incredibly tough to cut through the mobs of ensembles doing the same thing.  Would it be worth the time to volunteer your group to play at a local wedding showcase?  

Absolutely.  If it means an opportunity to prove yourself and legitimize your abilities to someone who could potentially pay you, then it is absolutely worth doing.  Keep an open mind with this and always be on the lookout for the next opportunity.

I'll leave you with a quote from my friend, mentor, and former teacher Jeff Lang that I think is an important thing to keep in mind:

"It's not about being in the right place at the right, but being some place all the time."